Discover Your Parenting Superpower
Every parent has a unique superpower as well as a natural way they react to challenges, which shapes their child’s world. When you’re most regulated, in sage mode, this superpower becomes your guide, allowing you to show up with clarity, presence, and connection, and to bring out the best in both yourself and your child. When stress takes over, though, we can lose that balance and fall back into instinctive reactions that don’t always serve us.
That’s why I created the Parenting Superpower Assessment. It’s designed to help you notice what allows your interactions with your child to thrive when your superpower is at play, to recognize the patterns in how you instinctively show up for your child: what feels like second nature, where stress could possibly trip you up, and how to bring more balance into your interactions.
Why This Assessment
Parenting is more than raising children. It’s a path of rediscovering yourself. In nurturing our children’s authentic selves, we often come face-to-face with our own. The assessment honors that truth. Taking the Parenting Superpower Assessment can help you:
Recognize what already comes naturally.
Understand what happens when stress takes over.
Use self-awareness to build stronger, more connected relationships with your children.
The five superpowers, Leader, Guardian, Observer, Harmonizer, and Architect, are not labels. They are lenses, each with its own gifts, challenges, and pathways for growth.
And here’s something important: you may resonate with more than one superpower. In fact, some parents who have taken this assessment have been a blend of two (sometimes even more). That’s absolutely normal. The assessment highlights your dominant style, but your secondary style also shapes how you respond in different situations.
If You Haven’t Taken the Assessment
This is your invitation. Taking the assessment will help you identify your dominant superpower and uncover reflection prompts that deepen awareness. The results are often a mix of recognition (“Yes, that’s me”) and discovery (“I didn’t realize I do that under stress”).
Take the Parenting Superpower Assessment
If You Already Have Your Results
Think of this blog as your guide to go further.
Revisit your style: Your result may land differently when you read it again with fresh eyes.
Notice if you can spot your secondary style: Many parents resonate with more than one superpower. Exploring your second most dominant style can add nuance to your self-perception.
Use the reflection prompts: These are tools for daily parenting moments when you want to pause, regulate, and respond with intention.
The Parenting Superpowers
Your assessment result highlights one of these five superpowers as your dominant style, but you may recognize yourself across several. As you read through them, notice what feels familiar, what surprises you, and where you see yourself reflected.
Leader
Your Superpower: You lead with clarity, set high expectations, and defend their family. Consistency and boundaries help children feel secure.
Typical Behavior When Stressed: You may become too rigid, focusing more on control than connection.
Reflection Prompts:
How do I set rules while still inviting my child’s voice?
What helps me pause before enforcing consequences?
When can I collaborate rather than direct?
Guardian
Your Superpower: Protective, nurturing, and quick to comfort, you create a sense of emotional safety for your child.
Typical Behavior When Stressed: You may overprotect or solve problems for your child, which can limit their resilience.
Reflection prompts:
When might my child benefit from solving something on their own?
How can I offer comfort while also encouraging independence?
What helps me trust my child’s ability to cope?
Observer
Your Superpower: You value space and independence, allowing children to explore and learn at their own pace.
Typical Behavior When Stressed: You may withdraw emotionally, leaving children feeling unseen.
Reflection prompts:
How can I show I’m present even when giving space?
What small actions help me stay engaged during challenges?
When might my child need me to step in sooner?
Harmonizer
Your Superpower: You keep the peace, diffuse tension, and bring a sense of lightness to the family atmosphere.
Typical Behavior When Stressed: You may avoid difficult issues, allowing them to build up over time.
Reflection prompts:
What conversations have I been avoiding that matter to my child?
How can I address conflict while still protecting harmony?
When is humor helpful, and when might it dismiss feelings?
Architect
Your Superpower: You focus on values, growth, and modeling excellence, inspiring pride in the family’s identity.
Typical Behavior When Stressed: You may prioritize appearances over authenticity.
Reflection prompts:
How can I show my child it’s okay to share struggles?
When might perfectionism get in the way of connection?
What helps me strike a balance between high standards and compassion?
Moving Forward
Discovering your Parenting Superpower is just the beginning. Real growth occurs when you revisit your results and incorporate the reflection prompts into your daily life. Parenting is not about getting it “right.” It’s about being honest with yourself, choosing connection over disconnection, and creating space for your child’s authentic self to flourish.
If you’d like to explore your style in more depth, I invite you to book a free session. We’ll explore how your superpower manifests, how stress influences it, and how to cultivate more balance and ease in your parenting.
